pity party

when i read other blogs i tend to notice one thing above all others--that many bloggers write pity posts about bad stuff that has happened to them and want commenters to say nice things. well, i rant a lot on this blog, so i want to make one thing absolutely 100% clear: i never ever want any of your pity.

think of it like this: my blog is my corner of the internet. i write here because 1) i like to write, and 2) it makes me feel good. and when something i dont like happens, writing about it can often make me feel better. but i do not write to you. i do not seek your advice. i do not want your pity. you are merely a passerby, observing my writings. now, if you have a genuine comment, a clever anecdote, or something interesting to say (even if off-topic), then by all means i welcome you to comment, and wish that you do. but don't give me fake pity. i dont need or want that.

and what is it about the pity that makes people feel better? it's one thing if it's a close friend or family member, but how does it help that someone you dont know who only knows the situation based on what you've written (biased from your side of course) tells you it's going to be alright and you're probably right to have said or done whatever you said or did? honestly, fake pity from anonymous strangers over the internet would make me feel worse about myself. how does one handle daily ups and downs with such codependence? did your mother breastfeed you until you were 6 or something?


that said, things are going great. the semester is progressing nicely and classes are bearable (or maybe i'm just happy because i'm visiting dominique this weekend and i'm already there). no complaints here.